Making Decisions
Mount-Essori Moment #23
Over breakfast today…
Kiyo: Daddy, what are you thinking about?
Duncan: Well, I’m enjoying this moment in my life. I have a loving, fulfilling, and nurturing relationship with you and Vee Vee. I’m starting a business practice and a community that I care deeply for. I’m creating a program to help healthcare workers feel rested and loved called Heal Our Healers.
Kiyo: Oh. What does it do?
Duncan: Well, I’ll be spending some weekends to lead day hikes and wilderness trips and do yoga and meditation with healthcare workers who cared for everyone during COVID.
Kiyo: (sad face) That’s nice. But… so I won’t see you as much?
Duncan: You’ll still see me just as much. I’ll only do that during weekends that you’re not with me.
Kiyo: (gleefully, slurps his smoothie) Okay, I feel better now.
Duncan: (strokes Kiyo’s hair) Kiyo, you can feel safe that I always make my decisions with you in mind.
Kiyo: I know. (smiles, eats bread)
Duncan: How do you make decisions Kiyo?
Kiyo: Well, I think of the thing and then think how you would make the decision, and then I make my decision using that.
Duncan: Hmm. So what do you think I base my decisions on?
Kiyo: (without hesitation) The right thing. Always.
Duncan: (smiles) Yes. The right thing, always. What would it mean to you if you are to make your decisions based on the right thing?
Kiyo: (pauses, calmly) Well, the right thing means whether the thing is good or bad for the world in the future. If it’s good for the world in the future, then it’s the right thing, and I do the right thing.
